Forgiveness and Release

I am continually amazed at the power of forgiveness. On all levels it can improve our lives. Because we humans tend to take things personally and get offended at every little thing. Most of what anyone else is doing is about THEM, rarely, if ever, about us. (See Don Miguel Ruiz's book The Four Agreements for the full story on this)

Some time ago, I was picking up my son from my mother's best friend, when she began to tell me the litany of grievances she & her husband held against their neighbor. This neighbor had called the police on them for parking their car in the street in front of his house, had called them the most heinous of names (crazy) and she could not sleep at night for worrying about what he might do next.

Knowing her strong Catholic faith, I said to her: "Well, you know what you have to do, right?"

Befuddled, she replied: "No, what?"

"Pray for him. Grant him forgiveness."

She looked aghast.

"And do it every night for two weeks, I continued. "And when you pray, pray for him to have every good thing that you hope for yourself. Love, good health, wealth, etc..."

Without skipping a beat, (to her credit) she proclaimed, "I'll do it!"

One day shy of the 2 week mark, I stopped by her house to pick up some pictures. She couldn't wait to tell me that, not only had the neighbor approached her to let her know, "he's all over that now," but has also offered to plant a dogwood tree for her where another had died just so that "she could enjoy looking at it."

It goes to show: when you shine your light, others can't help but to be enlightened by it. But forgiveness is not for the other person anyway. It's for YOU. When my friend released her resentments, judgments and bad feelings about her neighbor, the problems disappeared. And this can happen for any grievance you may have - old or new.

Praying for their happiness is one technique to bring about the release needed to unblock yourself. Another is the stage technique. I have recorded it in an 4 minute audio for you to listen to and follow along. It is guaranteed to help you with your stickiest forgiveness issue. (You know, that #&!* person you just don't want to forgive!) Click here to download: Forgiveness Technique

It's Already Here

Ok, I know that this is deep, but this idea has intrigued me like no other! The idea that my desire - whatever it may be - has a physical equivalent (manifestation) already in existence. They are born together - the law of polarity says so! You can't have one without the other. That means that I couldn't have the desire unless its physical equivalent were already here!

And not only are they created together, but they are designed to find each other. Your desire pulls you toward the manifestation and the manifestation is drawn to you as well.

Sometimes that desire we feel is a low flame and sometimes it's burning high right away. If it's not burning right away, we may have to "fan the flame," so to speak, to get our emotions involved. You see, the meeting happens sooner when the desire is burning. If you can hold the attitude of faith, it helps a great deal. The more you can focus that expecantcy - that belief that your manifestation is complete - the sooner it shows up.

The whole universe is designed for this phenomenon to take place. Idea (thought form) then Desire (emotion) then Manifestation (material form). Amazing!

Where, then, you may ask, is all my stuff? I been over here having ideas and desires for quite some time, you may say. Well, it's an interesting thing because what gets in the way, is one thing: our beliefs. Because we have a little voice in our mind that whispers to us. And when we get an idea that turns into a desire, before it can get really hot, this voice begins to tell us all the reasons why we can't have that. And it will give you as many reasons as it takes to get you to drop the idea.

That is really where our work lies: shutting down the "doubting" voice long enough to hear the voice of our desire. The desire will propel you forward, toward its fulfillment. It can't help but to do so. It's designed to find its match, if we will only get out of the way.

Remember - it's already here. You need only feel the desire, banish any doubting thoughts and expect your fulfillment. So easy!

Defensiveness - It's all about YOU

Why is it when I'm dealing with a topic, everyone around me starts buzzing with the same thing? (Short answer: Law of Attraction) Anyway, lately I've been looking at defensiveness. I got defensive at another mom when I was watching our kids play. I assumed that an action by her was an affront to me and I got defensive about it. The poor soul apologized ten times, but I had this uncomfortable, lingering, icky feeling that I finally figured out. It was not her fault at all, it was my interpretation of her actions that was the problem. When I cooled down, I was able to reframe her actions in the context of "not having anything to do with me." I could understand her concern for her child and - get this - I might have done the same thing. But there was a message for me in there...

My conclusion is that whenever I am defensive, I am coming from a place of fear. Fear that I will look bad, fear that someone is judging me, fear that I am not in control. (Yikes!) I guess all fear boils down to: fear I'll lose something I have, fear I'll not get something I want.

But when I am in faith, when I am standing in who I truly am, I don't get defensive - about anything. So in reality my defensiveness is a gift to me - it shows me that I'm not standing in the right place. A shift needs to take place and then all is well. Sometimes it is holding onto a positive thought, like an affirmation. Sometimes prayer will produce the needed shift. One thing is for sure though, it is up to me, because it is all happening in me. So in the end... I do have control. AHA!