The truth is abundance is all around us. When we really open our eyes to the rich abundance that surrounds us, we begin to see more of it. It's that same old adage: What we focus upon expands. So if you will look for more abundance, you will find more abundance.
This is deceptively simple, of course. The reason that more people don't do it, is because we have not been trained in thought control. We've been trained to observe what is and put our attention on that. (and it expands, naturally) If it's something bad, when it enlarges - we pay even more attention to it! And so it goes, the story of many many people's lives.
The trick is mind control. If we could only focus on the abundance in our lives and/or the abundance we want to see in our lives, life would unfold as a series of predictable miracles. But life gets in the way and demands our attention and oops! now we are off the dream.
You can't monitor every thought. It's literally impossilbe to do so because we have tens of thousands of thoughts each day. But we can notice the way we feel. If you feel bad, emotionally, you know you are thinking a thought that is not good for you. Bless those emotions because they are your connection to those thoughts that are racing by you. They are like the thought police, pulling you over when your thinking has gone awry.
Then reach for a higher thought. When your emotions alert you to a negative thought pattern, you can't just eradicate the thought from your head. (unless you can and then by all means do!) So the best thing to do is reach for a better thought, one that is beleiveable to you, acceptable to you. One that makes you feel better! You may have to try a few on before one sticks, but all you are looking to do is feel a little better.
Then get back focused on your abundant life. Becaue if you can dream it - you can have it. Don't let the negative thoughts hamper you - reach for a better one. And then from the good-feeling place look for your abundance. And then it must come.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
The Power of Forgivness
There is only one reason to forgive. It's for ourselves. We are the only ones who suffer when we choose to hold on to resentment or condemnation or judgment of another. And it's not just to better our lot in life to forgive others, it is to prevent hardship to come upon us!
You see, we do not get away with unforgiveness. As (one of my absolute faves) Eric Butterworth puts it: "We may feel that it is too much to ask us to forgive those who have deliberately and spitefully used us. Don't we have a right to our indignation and bitterness? Yes, you have a right. But you also have the responsibility to accept what happens as a result. You have to pay the price for a broken connection in the Divine Circuit."
There is not ever a good enough reason to give away your peace and your freedom. Resenting someone or something is like chaining yourself to them - you cannot be free. Forgiveness is the key that lets it go.
And forgiveness gets you back in the prosperous flow. Holding on to judgments and resentments blocks your flow. Sometimes it's been blocked (at least partially) for a long time. And that's why people often get dramatic results right away when they begin this practice of forgiveness. Things you've been wanting for a long time get freed up to come to you when you truly apply this practice. And you never have to say a word to anyone about it.
So determine right now that you will forgive everyone and yourself, too. Take a sheet of paper and write down anyone you feel resentment for, or judge or are just irritated by. Review it everyday and speak words of forgiveness and release for anyone on the list.
If you find someone to be particularly hard to let go of, imagine them in your mind's eye in front of you in a room, or up on a stage with you alone in the audience. Imagine what they would say to gain your forgiveness. "I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to hurt you. Please forgive me." Things like that until you feel the release of forgiving them. Powerful stuff!
Practice this daily for just two weeks (15 minutes per day is good) and watch the amazing results. You'll unblock your flow and you'll feel better in the process.
You see, we do not get away with unforgiveness. As (one of my absolute faves) Eric Butterworth puts it: "We may feel that it is too much to ask us to forgive those who have deliberately and spitefully used us. Don't we have a right to our indignation and bitterness? Yes, you have a right. But you also have the responsibility to accept what happens as a result. You have to pay the price for a broken connection in the Divine Circuit."
There is not ever a good enough reason to give away your peace and your freedom. Resenting someone or something is like chaining yourself to them - you cannot be free. Forgiveness is the key that lets it go.
And forgiveness gets you back in the prosperous flow. Holding on to judgments and resentments blocks your flow. Sometimes it's been blocked (at least partially) for a long time. And that's why people often get dramatic results right away when they begin this practice of forgiveness. Things you've been wanting for a long time get freed up to come to you when you truly apply this practice. And you never have to say a word to anyone about it.
So determine right now that you will forgive everyone and yourself, too. Take a sheet of paper and write down anyone you feel resentment for, or judge or are just irritated by. Review it everyday and speak words of forgiveness and release for anyone on the list.
If you find someone to be particularly hard to let go of, imagine them in your mind's eye in front of you in a room, or up on a stage with you alone in the audience. Imagine what they would say to gain your forgiveness. "I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to hurt you. Please forgive me." Things like that until you feel the release of forgiving them. Powerful stuff!
Practice this daily for just two weeks (15 minutes per day is good) and watch the amazing results. You'll unblock your flow and you'll feel better in the process.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Give What You Need
The best way to get what you need on any day is easiest achieved by giving that very thing to someone else. No matter what your problem, if you will go out and find someone with the exact same problem and help them - you will be helped. That may seem difficult for you to imagine, because you may think if I knew how to help them, I could help myself! But this perfectly ordered universe doesn't work that way. We are all in this together, so to speak, and this method uses that principle to your benefit. So to do this, when you discover that you have a problem, ask yourself, "How can I help someone else with this same problem?" And immediatley follow up with the answer you receive.
For example, you might find yourself needing some new clients. When you ask yourself this question, you immediately think of your friend, Joe the chiropracter who you heard complaining last week of needing new clients. You call up Joe and say, "Joe, I was remembering this morning your comment last week of needing new clients. How has that been going for you?" Joe says, "Not so good. I'd like to have 10, I have 5." And let the brainstorming begin. As it turns out he wants to get hooked up with a sports medicine outfit and your neighbor 3 doors down works at one of those...and, well, you see where I'm going with this. The next day, 3 new clients walk through your door. Like magic.
You see, when you are busy helping someone else, you take the focus off your problem. And remember energy flows where focus goes. Now you are not flowing energy toward your problem and creative solutions come to you, unimagined good comes to you and things that you were expecting are free to come in. It is the great un-stopper!
Also, helping others is gratitude in action. When you practice gratitude you stay on the right side of the prosperity equation. It is important to remember in your mind your gratitude list, but ever so much more powerful is it when your action backs up your belief.
For example, you might find yourself needing some new clients. When you ask yourself this question, you immediately think of your friend, Joe the chiropracter who you heard complaining last week of needing new clients. You call up Joe and say, "Joe, I was remembering this morning your comment last week of needing new clients. How has that been going for you?" Joe says, "Not so good. I'd like to have 10, I have 5." And let the brainstorming begin. As it turns out he wants to get hooked up with a sports medicine outfit and your neighbor 3 doors down works at one of those...and, well, you see where I'm going with this. The next day, 3 new clients walk through your door. Like magic.
You see, when you are busy helping someone else, you take the focus off your problem. And remember energy flows where focus goes. Now you are not flowing energy toward your problem and creative solutions come to you, unimagined good comes to you and things that you were expecting are free to come in. It is the great un-stopper!
Also, helping others is gratitude in action. When you practice gratitude you stay on the right side of the prosperity equation. It is important to remember in your mind your gratitude list, but ever so much more powerful is it when your action backs up your belief.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
It's Already Here
Ok, I know that this is deep, but this idea has intrigued me like no other! The idea that my desire - whatever it may be - has a physical equivalent (manifestation) already in existence. They are born together - the law of polarity says so! You can't have one without the other. That means that I couldn't have the desire unless its physical equivalent were already here!
And not only are they created together, but they are designed to find each other. Your desire pulls you toward the manifestation and the manifestation is drawn to you as well.
Sometimes that desire we feel is a low flame and sometimes it's burning high right away. If it's not burning right away, we may have to "fan the flame," so to speak, to get our emotions involved. You see, the meeting happens sooner when the desire is burning. If you can hold the attitude of faith, it helps a great deal. The more you can focus that expecantcy - that belief that your manifestation is complete - the sooner it shows up.
The whole universe is designed for this phenomenon to take place. Idea (thought form) then Desire (emotion) then Manifestation (material form). Amazing!
Where, then, you may ask, is all my stuff? I been over here having ideas and desires for quite some time, you may say. Well, it's an interesting thing because what gets in the way, is one thing: our beliefs. Because we have a little voice in our mind that whispers to us. And when we get an idea that turns into a desire, before it can get really hot, this voice begins to tell us all the reasons why we can't have that. And it will give you as many reasons as it takes to get you to drop the idea.
That is really where our work lies: shutting down the "doubting" voice long enough to hear the voice of our desire. The desire will propel you forward, toward its fulfillment. It can't help but to do so. It's designed to find its match, if we will only get out of the way.
Remember - it's already here. You need only feel the desire, banish any doubting thoughts and expect your fulfillment. So easy!
And not only are they created together, but they are designed to find each other. Your desire pulls you toward the manifestation and the manifestation is drawn to you as well.
Sometimes that desire we feel is a low flame and sometimes it's burning high right away. If it's not burning right away, we may have to "fan the flame," so to speak, to get our emotions involved. You see, the meeting happens sooner when the desire is burning. If you can hold the attitude of faith, it helps a great deal. The more you can focus that expecantcy - that belief that your manifestation is complete - the sooner it shows up.
The whole universe is designed for this phenomenon to take place. Idea (thought form) then Desire (emotion) then Manifestation (material form). Amazing!
Where, then, you may ask, is all my stuff? I been over here having ideas and desires for quite some time, you may say. Well, it's an interesting thing because what gets in the way, is one thing: our beliefs. Because we have a little voice in our mind that whispers to us. And when we get an idea that turns into a desire, before it can get really hot, this voice begins to tell us all the reasons why we can't have that. And it will give you as many reasons as it takes to get you to drop the idea.
That is really where our work lies: shutting down the "doubting" voice long enough to hear the voice of our desire. The desire will propel you forward, toward its fulfillment. It can't help but to do so. It's designed to find its match, if we will only get out of the way.
Remember - it's already here. You need only feel the desire, banish any doubting thoughts and expect your fulfillment. So easy!
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Prosperity in Every Adversity
There is a gift inside of each pain we experience. There is a message in each and every adversity that we face. Sometimes called the “silver lining” or the “golden nugget”, it holds for us the kernel to our future prosperity.
Since the seed of greatness exists in each adversity we face, it is our job to find it. When people are busy living inside the problem (thinking about it, talking about it), they miss the opportunity hidden inside. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in this world by accident. As the famous prayer “Desiderata” says, “And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
There is this amazing thing that goes on with people when faced with adversity. Sure it can bring out the worst in us, but it brings out the best in us too. Remember 911? We had hardly ever seen such compassion amongst us in this country! We were tripping over ourselves to help those New Yorkers and their city. Did you know that the fund set up to send every child who had a parent die in the tragedy of 911 was fully funded in 12 months (with over $100 million)? They had to turn donations away! Americans, who had rarely noticed the Big Apple, came to develop a fondness for it that persists these 8 years later. And our countryman felt a camaraderie amongst ourselves that is still present today.
When I was at my lowest point financially, even though I didn’t say a word aloud to a soul, my father unexpectedly sent me a check. I cried when I opened that envelope – it certainly was an answered prayer and even more of a blessing coming from my dear dad. I felt loved by both fathers in that moment. It occurred to me later that I couldn’t have had that moment – felt that joy – without the adversity. There’s something to be grateful for.
And there is our work. Be grateful for every little thing. Because each little thing has a gift for you. You only have to open it and look inside.
Since the seed of greatness exists in each adversity we face, it is our job to find it. When people are busy living inside the problem (thinking about it, talking about it), they miss the opportunity hidden inside. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in this world by accident. As the famous prayer “Desiderata” says, “And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
There is this amazing thing that goes on with people when faced with adversity. Sure it can bring out the worst in us, but it brings out the best in us too. Remember 911? We had hardly ever seen such compassion amongst us in this country! We were tripping over ourselves to help those New Yorkers and their city. Did you know that the fund set up to send every child who had a parent die in the tragedy of 911 was fully funded in 12 months (with over $100 million)? They had to turn donations away! Americans, who had rarely noticed the Big Apple, came to develop a fondness for it that persists these 8 years later. And our countryman felt a camaraderie amongst ourselves that is still present today.
When I was at my lowest point financially, even though I didn’t say a word aloud to a soul, my father unexpectedly sent me a check. I cried when I opened that envelope – it certainly was an answered prayer and even more of a blessing coming from my dear dad. I felt loved by both fathers in that moment. It occurred to me later that I couldn’t have had that moment – felt that joy – without the adversity. There’s something to be grateful for.
And there is our work. Be grateful for every little thing. Because each little thing has a gift for you. You only have to open it and look inside.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
What will you leave behind?
Today I am considering my legacy. Not in small part because last week I reached the esteemed and gilded age of 50. And it is not so bad. I did see it coming...
About 3 years ago, I made peace with my age and myself. I stopped struggling with my life-long desire to be a mother and began the process of adopting my children. You see, I kept thinking that Mr. Right was on his way and I was patiently waiting for him to arrive and fulfill my dream. I finally realized that my dream wasn't contingent on anyone else. I had to make peace with me and my life just as it was. And then I could move forward. The joyous life that I am living right now is testament enough that I made the right choice. And, of course, there is still room for Mr. Right when he shows up. ;-)
Everyone is different, but as this age is passed by many of my friends, I am noticing a trend. Something about age 50 calls us to stop and take inventory. If we are wise, we will ask ourselves two questions: What has my life caused me to become? What would I like to do with it now? In other words, we don't have unlimited time anymore. We want to be more focused in our approach of what we want to accomplish. Victor Hugo said it well, "Forty is the old age of youth and Fifty is the youth of old age." We want to make sure that we don't wake up at 70 with regrets.
So the best way to take an inventory is to (with pen & paper) ask questions like these: What has made me the happiest in my life's journey? What do I do exceptionally well? What do I wish I were doing with my life? All these types of questions can get the ball rolling. I highly recommend you then ask yourself this question: Which values are most important to me? Then zero in on your top four. Anything you do MUST include these four.
Sometimes it's helpful to list all of your talents, skills and abilities. At 50, these lists can be quite long! It's useful because we are so accustomed to our own gifts that we forget they are special. We forget that not everyone can do what we can do well. People who are organized forget that is a skill. (that many of us could use, by the way) Artists often forget how stunning their artwork is because they look at it all the time.
As you are taking stock, check in with your Inner Knower. That's where the direction that you really want to follow comes from. You may want to spend a little extra time in meditation. It is the surest way to turn up the volume on that inner voice.
Each age has its own special joys and experiences. I am finding the 50s to be a whole new beginning. In fact, my newest program, Footprints at Fifty, is an inspirational starting point for all of us Baby Boomers to answer that question: What am I leaving behind? More details on this innovative members-only program in a few days. :)
About 3 years ago, I made peace with my age and myself. I stopped struggling with my life-long desire to be a mother and began the process of adopting my children. You see, I kept thinking that Mr. Right was on his way and I was patiently waiting for him to arrive and fulfill my dream. I finally realized that my dream wasn't contingent on anyone else. I had to make peace with me and my life just as it was. And then I could move forward. The joyous life that I am living right now is testament enough that I made the right choice. And, of course, there is still room for Mr. Right when he shows up. ;-)
Everyone is different, but as this age is passed by many of my friends, I am noticing a trend. Something about age 50 calls us to stop and take inventory. If we are wise, we will ask ourselves two questions: What has my life caused me to become? What would I like to do with it now? In other words, we don't have unlimited time anymore. We want to be more focused in our approach of what we want to accomplish. Victor Hugo said it well, "Forty is the old age of youth and Fifty is the youth of old age." We want to make sure that we don't wake up at 70 with regrets.
So the best way to take an inventory is to (with pen & paper) ask questions like these: What has made me the happiest in my life's journey? What do I do exceptionally well? What do I wish I were doing with my life? All these types of questions can get the ball rolling. I highly recommend you then ask yourself this question: Which values are most important to me? Then zero in on your top four. Anything you do MUST include these four.
Sometimes it's helpful to list all of your talents, skills and abilities. At 50, these lists can be quite long! It's useful because we are so accustomed to our own gifts that we forget they are special. We forget that not everyone can do what we can do well. People who are organized forget that is a skill. (that many of us could use, by the way) Artists often forget how stunning their artwork is because they look at it all the time.
As you are taking stock, check in with your Inner Knower. That's where the direction that you really want to follow comes from. You may want to spend a little extra time in meditation. It is the surest way to turn up the volume on that inner voice.
Each age has its own special joys and experiences. I am finding the 50s to be a whole new beginning. In fact, my newest program, Footprints at Fifty, is an inspirational starting point for all of us Baby Boomers to answer that question: What am I leaving behind? More details on this innovative members-only program in a few days. :)
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Lowering your standards on Miracles
Recently, a class I was taking asked us to poll our friends with this question:
"What is the most unexpected, miraculous thing you have ever experienced?"
The point of the exercise was to help us to see that miracles really do happen everyday. And they are much more frequent than we imagine. True, indeed.
Here are some of the answers I received:
* Looking from a boat at snow capped mountain rising up out of the ocean
* Conceiving and having twins at age 44
* Watching my hole-in-one go into the cup
* Meeting my wife - I thought this would never happen to me
* The adoption process -- celebrating my daughter's culture made motherhood extra special
* Falling in love, love at first sight
* Being able to look down on a rainbow
* The first five years of my brother's life
* The love I have for my children
* Having a boy after having 4 girls
Very diverse, yes. And very attainable too, I would say. My mentor used to say, "Perhaps you should lower your standards on miracles." In other words, we tend to think certain things we want or need are unattainable when, in reality, they happen everyday. It's only in our own thought process that we decide they are unattainable. If I saw more things as miracles, maybe more things would seem possible to me.
My answer, by the way, was: bonding with my adopted son instantly and growing to not only deeply love him, but motherhood as well - far more than I had imagined. That's my answer to the "most" but there are many unexpected and miraculous things around me everyday, if I will only look at them. The important thing to remember is to look for them! What a miracle that I can have a Spanish class over Skype with my Guatemalan teacher and, with web cam, I can see him too. Miracle! My son, with two languages, was slow to start speaking. 4 months before his third birthday he tests like a 3 year old. Miracle! Last Thursday, I celebrated 24 years without a drink or a drug. Miracle! A butterfly flew over to me yesterday and flapped its elegant, large, black wings in front of my face for a moment. Miracle!
And how delicious it feels to think this way all day! It's so much better than trying to plan out what is going to happen and how I can affect that. When I am looking for miracles...miracles happen. The trick is to look for the miracles that are already happening around you. That's what opens the door for the new miracles to come. Like attracts like, remember.
So lower your standards and let the miracles begin!
"What is the most unexpected, miraculous thing you have ever experienced?"
The point of the exercise was to help us to see that miracles really do happen everyday. And they are much more frequent than we imagine. True, indeed.
Here are some of the answers I received:
* Looking from a boat at snow capped mountain rising up out of the ocean
* Conceiving and having twins at age 44
* Watching my hole-in-one go into the cup
* Meeting my wife - I thought this would never happen to me
* The adoption process -- celebrating my daughter's culture made motherhood extra special
* Falling in love, love at first sight
* Being able to look down on a rainbow
* The first five years of my brother's life
* The love I have for my children
* Having a boy after having 4 girls
Very diverse, yes. And very attainable too, I would say. My mentor used to say, "Perhaps you should lower your standards on miracles." In other words, we tend to think certain things we want or need are unattainable when, in reality, they happen everyday. It's only in our own thought process that we decide they are unattainable. If I saw more things as miracles, maybe more things would seem possible to me.
My answer, by the way, was: bonding with my adopted son instantly and growing to not only deeply love him, but motherhood as well - far more than I had imagined. That's my answer to the "most" but there are many unexpected and miraculous things around me everyday, if I will only look at them. The important thing to remember is to look for them! What a miracle that I can have a Spanish class over Skype with my Guatemalan teacher and, with web cam, I can see him too. Miracle! My son, with two languages, was slow to start speaking. 4 months before his third birthday he tests like a 3 year old. Miracle! Last Thursday, I celebrated 24 years without a drink or a drug. Miracle! A butterfly flew over to me yesterday and flapped its elegant, large, black wings in front of my face for a moment. Miracle!
And how delicious it feels to think this way all day! It's so much better than trying to plan out what is going to happen and how I can affect that. When I am looking for miracles...miracles happen. The trick is to look for the miracles that are already happening around you. That's what opens the door for the new miracles to come. Like attracts like, remember.
So lower your standards and let the miracles begin!
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