Ok, I know that this is deep, but this idea has intrigued me like no other! The idea that my desire - whatever it may be - has a physical equivalent (manifestation) already in existence. They are born together - the law of polarity says so! You can't have one without the other. That means that I couldn't have the desire unless its physical equivalent were already here!
And not only are they created together, but they are designed to find each other. Your desire pulls you toward the manifestation and the manifestation is drawn to you as well.
Sometimes that desire we feel is a low flame and sometimes it's burning high right away. If it's not burning right away, we may have to "fan the flame," so to speak, to get our emotions involved. You see, the meeting happens sooner when the desire is burning. If you can hold the attitude of faith, it helps a great deal. The more you can focus that expecantcy - that belief that your manifestation is complete - the sooner it shows up.
The whole universe is designed for this phenomenon to take place. Idea (thought form) then Desire (emotion) then Manifestation (material form). Amazing!
Where, then, you may ask, is all my stuff? I been over here having ideas and desires for quite some time, you may say. Well, it's an interesting thing because what gets in the way, is one thing: our beliefs. Because we have a little voice in our mind that whispers to us. And when we get an idea that turns into a desire, before it can get really hot, this voice begins to tell us all the reasons why we can't have that. And it will give you as many reasons as it takes to get you to drop the idea.
That is really where our work lies: shutting down the "doubting" voice long enough to hear the voice of our desire. The desire will propel you forward, toward its fulfillment. It can't help but to do so. It's designed to find its match, if we will only get out of the way.
Remember - it's already here. You need only feel the desire, banish any doubting thoughts and expect your fulfillment. So easy!
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Prosperity in Every Adversity
There is a gift inside of each pain we experience. There is a message in each and every adversity that we face. Sometimes called the “silver lining” or the “golden nugget”, it holds for us the kernel to our future prosperity.
Since the seed of greatness exists in each adversity we face, it is our job to find it. When people are busy living inside the problem (thinking about it, talking about it), they miss the opportunity hidden inside. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in this world by accident. As the famous prayer “Desiderata” says, “And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
There is this amazing thing that goes on with people when faced with adversity. Sure it can bring out the worst in us, but it brings out the best in us too. Remember 911? We had hardly ever seen such compassion amongst us in this country! We were tripping over ourselves to help those New Yorkers and their city. Did you know that the fund set up to send every child who had a parent die in the tragedy of 911 was fully funded in 12 months (with over $100 million)? They had to turn donations away! Americans, who had rarely noticed the Big Apple, came to develop a fondness for it that persists these 8 years later. And our countryman felt a camaraderie amongst ourselves that is still present today.
When I was at my lowest point financially, even though I didn’t say a word aloud to a soul, my father unexpectedly sent me a check. I cried when I opened that envelope – it certainly was an answered prayer and even more of a blessing coming from my dear dad. I felt loved by both fathers in that moment. It occurred to me later that I couldn’t have had that moment – felt that joy – without the adversity. There’s something to be grateful for.
And there is our work. Be grateful for every little thing. Because each little thing has a gift for you. You only have to open it and look inside.
Since the seed of greatness exists in each adversity we face, it is our job to find it. When people are busy living inside the problem (thinking about it, talking about it), they miss the opportunity hidden inside. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in this world by accident. As the famous prayer “Desiderata” says, “And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
There is this amazing thing that goes on with people when faced with adversity. Sure it can bring out the worst in us, but it brings out the best in us too. Remember 911? We had hardly ever seen such compassion amongst us in this country! We were tripping over ourselves to help those New Yorkers and their city. Did you know that the fund set up to send every child who had a parent die in the tragedy of 911 was fully funded in 12 months (with over $100 million)? They had to turn donations away! Americans, who had rarely noticed the Big Apple, came to develop a fondness for it that persists these 8 years later. And our countryman felt a camaraderie amongst ourselves that is still present today.
When I was at my lowest point financially, even though I didn’t say a word aloud to a soul, my father unexpectedly sent me a check. I cried when I opened that envelope – it certainly was an answered prayer and even more of a blessing coming from my dear dad. I felt loved by both fathers in that moment. It occurred to me later that I couldn’t have had that moment – felt that joy – without the adversity. There’s something to be grateful for.
And there is our work. Be grateful for every little thing. Because each little thing has a gift for you. You only have to open it and look inside.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
What will you leave behind?
Today I am considering my legacy. Not in small part because last week I reached the esteemed and gilded age of 50. And it is not so bad. I did see it coming...
About 3 years ago, I made peace with my age and myself. I stopped struggling with my life-long desire to be a mother and began the process of adopting my children. You see, I kept thinking that Mr. Right was on his way and I was patiently waiting for him to arrive and fulfill my dream. I finally realized that my dream wasn't contingent on anyone else. I had to make peace with me and my life just as it was. And then I could move forward. The joyous life that I am living right now is testament enough that I made the right choice. And, of course, there is still room for Mr. Right when he shows up. ;-)
Everyone is different, but as this age is passed by many of my friends, I am noticing a trend. Something about age 50 calls us to stop and take inventory. If we are wise, we will ask ourselves two questions: What has my life caused me to become? What would I like to do with it now? In other words, we don't have unlimited time anymore. We want to be more focused in our approach of what we want to accomplish. Victor Hugo said it well, "Forty is the old age of youth and Fifty is the youth of old age." We want to make sure that we don't wake up at 70 with regrets.
So the best way to take an inventory is to (with pen & paper) ask questions like these: What has made me the happiest in my life's journey? What do I do exceptionally well? What do I wish I were doing with my life? All these types of questions can get the ball rolling. I highly recommend you then ask yourself this question: Which values are most important to me? Then zero in on your top four. Anything you do MUST include these four.
Sometimes it's helpful to list all of your talents, skills and abilities. At 50, these lists can be quite long! It's useful because we are so accustomed to our own gifts that we forget they are special. We forget that not everyone can do what we can do well. People who are organized forget that is a skill. (that many of us could use, by the way) Artists often forget how stunning their artwork is because they look at it all the time.
As you are taking stock, check in with your Inner Knower. That's where the direction that you really want to follow comes from. You may want to spend a little extra time in meditation. It is the surest way to turn up the volume on that inner voice.
Each age has its own special joys and experiences. I am finding the 50s to be a whole new beginning. In fact, my newest program, Footprints at Fifty, is an inspirational starting point for all of us Baby Boomers to answer that question: What am I leaving behind? More details on this innovative members-only program in a few days. :)
About 3 years ago, I made peace with my age and myself. I stopped struggling with my life-long desire to be a mother and began the process of adopting my children. You see, I kept thinking that Mr. Right was on his way and I was patiently waiting for him to arrive and fulfill my dream. I finally realized that my dream wasn't contingent on anyone else. I had to make peace with me and my life just as it was. And then I could move forward. The joyous life that I am living right now is testament enough that I made the right choice. And, of course, there is still room for Mr. Right when he shows up. ;-)
Everyone is different, but as this age is passed by many of my friends, I am noticing a trend. Something about age 50 calls us to stop and take inventory. If we are wise, we will ask ourselves two questions: What has my life caused me to become? What would I like to do with it now? In other words, we don't have unlimited time anymore. We want to be more focused in our approach of what we want to accomplish. Victor Hugo said it well, "Forty is the old age of youth and Fifty is the youth of old age." We want to make sure that we don't wake up at 70 with regrets.
So the best way to take an inventory is to (with pen & paper) ask questions like these: What has made me the happiest in my life's journey? What do I do exceptionally well? What do I wish I were doing with my life? All these types of questions can get the ball rolling. I highly recommend you then ask yourself this question: Which values are most important to me? Then zero in on your top four. Anything you do MUST include these four.
Sometimes it's helpful to list all of your talents, skills and abilities. At 50, these lists can be quite long! It's useful because we are so accustomed to our own gifts that we forget they are special. We forget that not everyone can do what we can do well. People who are organized forget that is a skill. (that many of us could use, by the way) Artists often forget how stunning their artwork is because they look at it all the time.
As you are taking stock, check in with your Inner Knower. That's where the direction that you really want to follow comes from. You may want to spend a little extra time in meditation. It is the surest way to turn up the volume on that inner voice.
Each age has its own special joys and experiences. I am finding the 50s to be a whole new beginning. In fact, my newest program, Footprints at Fifty, is an inspirational starting point for all of us Baby Boomers to answer that question: What am I leaving behind? More details on this innovative members-only program in a few days. :)
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Lowering your standards on Miracles
Recently, a class I was taking asked us to poll our friends with this question:
"What is the most unexpected, miraculous thing you have ever experienced?"
The point of the exercise was to help us to see that miracles really do happen everyday. And they are much more frequent than we imagine. True, indeed.
Here are some of the answers I received:
* Looking from a boat at snow capped mountain rising up out of the ocean
* Conceiving and having twins at age 44
* Watching my hole-in-one go into the cup
* Meeting my wife - I thought this would never happen to me
* The adoption process -- celebrating my daughter's culture made motherhood extra special
* Falling in love, love at first sight
* Being able to look down on a rainbow
* The first five years of my brother's life
* The love I have for my children
* Having a boy after having 4 girls
Very diverse, yes. And very attainable too, I would say. My mentor used to say, "Perhaps you should lower your standards on miracles." In other words, we tend to think certain things we want or need are unattainable when, in reality, they happen everyday. It's only in our own thought process that we decide they are unattainable. If I saw more things as miracles, maybe more things would seem possible to me.
My answer, by the way, was: bonding with my adopted son instantly and growing to not only deeply love him, but motherhood as well - far more than I had imagined. That's my answer to the "most" but there are many unexpected and miraculous things around me everyday, if I will only look at them. The important thing to remember is to look for them! What a miracle that I can have a Spanish class over Skype with my Guatemalan teacher and, with web cam, I can see him too. Miracle! My son, with two languages, was slow to start speaking. 4 months before his third birthday he tests like a 3 year old. Miracle! Last Thursday, I celebrated 24 years without a drink or a drug. Miracle! A butterfly flew over to me yesterday and flapped its elegant, large, black wings in front of my face for a moment. Miracle!
And how delicious it feels to think this way all day! It's so much better than trying to plan out what is going to happen and how I can affect that. When I am looking for miracles...miracles happen. The trick is to look for the miracles that are already happening around you. That's what opens the door for the new miracles to come. Like attracts like, remember.
So lower your standards and let the miracles begin!
"What is the most unexpected, miraculous thing you have ever experienced?"
The point of the exercise was to help us to see that miracles really do happen everyday. And they are much more frequent than we imagine. True, indeed.
Here are some of the answers I received:
* Looking from a boat at snow capped mountain rising up out of the ocean
* Conceiving and having twins at age 44
* Watching my hole-in-one go into the cup
* Meeting my wife - I thought this would never happen to me
* The adoption process -- celebrating my daughter's culture made motherhood extra special
* Falling in love, love at first sight
* Being able to look down on a rainbow
* The first five years of my brother's life
* The love I have for my children
* Having a boy after having 4 girls
Very diverse, yes. And very attainable too, I would say. My mentor used to say, "Perhaps you should lower your standards on miracles." In other words, we tend to think certain things we want or need are unattainable when, in reality, they happen everyday. It's only in our own thought process that we decide they are unattainable. If I saw more things as miracles, maybe more things would seem possible to me.
My answer, by the way, was: bonding with my adopted son instantly and growing to not only deeply love him, but motherhood as well - far more than I had imagined. That's my answer to the "most" but there are many unexpected and miraculous things around me everyday, if I will only look at them. The important thing to remember is to look for them! What a miracle that I can have a Spanish class over Skype with my Guatemalan teacher and, with web cam, I can see him too. Miracle! My son, with two languages, was slow to start speaking. 4 months before his third birthday he tests like a 3 year old. Miracle! Last Thursday, I celebrated 24 years without a drink or a drug. Miracle! A butterfly flew over to me yesterday and flapped its elegant, large, black wings in front of my face for a moment. Miracle!
And how delicious it feels to think this way all day! It's so much better than trying to plan out what is going to happen and how I can affect that. When I am looking for miracles...miracles happen. The trick is to look for the miracles that are already happening around you. That's what opens the door for the new miracles to come. Like attracts like, remember.
So lower your standards and let the miracles begin!
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Living in the NOW -- Making peace with what is
I am reminded today of the fact that all we have is this present moment. We can’t be anywhere else than where we are right now. We can’t, by sheer willpower – in this moment -- make ourselves into something we are not. No matter how fiercely we may want to.
Years ago, my heart was broken by a man who wanted something different, while I wanted him. An old story, indeed. I tried with all my will to alter that hollow feeling, that echo in my head of “he doesn’t want me.” I vaguely knew that my thoughts about it were making me feel worse and yet I couldn’t stop myself. Now I know why. I had to accept where I was first, before I could move on.
I knew enough to know that if this was happening to me that I had attracted it. And trust me, that is a hard pill to swallow! But wait…if that was true, that I had brought this incredible pain to my doorstep, then there must be a gift inside there somewhere for me. Napoleon Hill says: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Aha!
Accepting what is going on right now in your life is the gateway to freedom. When we just accept that whatever we have going on JUST IS and it’s okay, the grip of resistance is loosed and change is now free to take place. Resisting (or resenting or regretting) our present circumstances is sure to guarantee that they stay.
So how do you accept what is?
First, remember you don’t have all the information. (In fact, it’s impossible.) How many times, in hindsight, can you see that a seeming disaster was really a needed change? If we could look at each unhappy occurrence in that light -- as curious observers to God’s master plan -- we could reach peace about it more quickly.
Second, remind yourself of some truths. Otherwise known as affirmations, statements like these can help you get centered in acceptance. “Well Being Abounds.” “I am worthy.” “I don’t have to know everything that’s going to happen, I know enough.”
Third, practice forgiveness. A fine habit to develop, forgive everyone and everything you can think of. When you realize we are all flawed and perfect at the same time, you can let everyone – and yourself – off the hook.
Years ago, my heart was broken by a man who wanted something different, while I wanted him. An old story, indeed. I tried with all my will to alter that hollow feeling, that echo in my head of “he doesn’t want me.” I vaguely knew that my thoughts about it were making me feel worse and yet I couldn’t stop myself. Now I know why. I had to accept where I was first, before I could move on.
I knew enough to know that if this was happening to me that I had attracted it. And trust me, that is a hard pill to swallow! But wait…if that was true, that I had brought this incredible pain to my doorstep, then there must be a gift inside there somewhere for me. Napoleon Hill says: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Aha!
Accepting what is going on right now in your life is the gateway to freedom. When we just accept that whatever we have going on JUST IS and it’s okay, the grip of resistance is loosed and change is now free to take place. Resisting (or resenting or regretting) our present circumstances is sure to guarantee that they stay.
So how do you accept what is?
First, remember you don’t have all the information. (In fact, it’s impossible.) How many times, in hindsight, can you see that a seeming disaster was really a needed change? If we could look at each unhappy occurrence in that light -- as curious observers to God’s master plan -- we could reach peace about it more quickly.
Second, remind yourself of some truths. Otherwise known as affirmations, statements like these can help you get centered in acceptance. “Well Being Abounds.” “I am worthy.” “I don’t have to know everything that’s going to happen, I know enough.”
Third, practice forgiveness. A fine habit to develop, forgive everyone and everything you can think of. When you realize we are all flawed and perfect at the same time, you can let everyone – and yourself – off the hook.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Being Me
This week my friend honored me by asking me to read the blessing at her upcoming wedding. I was so touched, tears immediately welled up in my eyes. Embarrassed, I held them back while exclaiming, "Oh no, I am crying!" So I was wondering why that was my first reaction? I love my friend so dearly, why would I be embarrassed to cry in front of her?
First about her: in my book of positive aspects, I have two pages on her -- her attributes are so many. There are many entries about her physical beauty (seriously, she is flawless!) There are many about her service to me (helped me get a job, hired me herself twice, supported me in both my adoptions.) There are her character traits that I so admire (volunteerism, committed to her own self-growth, dedication in her relationships) And her personality (funny, she's got a great mind - so creative, she's always thinking outside the box.) She really does have it all.
And now she is marrying the absolute dream man. Kind, considerate, smart, funny & hot. (hmmm just like her...)
And I guess I doubted my fabulousness for a minute. Although in my book of positive aspects, the page on me is even longer than the one on her, there are many items that she has that I do not. And it is a very human thing, I think, to look at another's greatness and shrink in comparison. And it is WRONG! This kind of thinking comes from the mindset of competition. That if she has something that I don't, that I am left wanting or lacking in some way. But the truth is -- good for me -- that she has it and I KNOW HER. And of course, I have things she does not because we are all in this together. How would that work out if we all had the exact same attributes? We sure wouldn't need each other then.
So it's back to humility. I am me and that's all I can be. And it has to be OK with me. Right here, right now. I have all that I need to be me. The only comparison that makes sense is comparing me with the me I used to be. (And, wow, I have grown!) And besides, the Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Therefore, she could not even be in my experience if we were not alike.
One of my favorite authors, Catherine Ponder, says that we should always be happy for the successes of others. If we can bless them, those same successes are on their way to us. The fact that we can witness another's success means we are very close to our own. So don't listen to the voice that wants to tell you that you are not enough. You are always enough for whatever you are living. When you remember that fact, the clarity you need for your next right step always appears.
This week my friend honored me by asking me to read the blessing at her upcoming wedding. I was so touched, tears immediately welled up in my eyes. Embarrassed, I held them back while exclaiming, "Oh no, I am crying!" So I was wondering why that was my first reaction? I love my friend so dearly, why would I be embarrassed to cry in front of her?
First about her: in my book of positive aspects, I have two pages on her -- her attributes are so many. There are many entries about her physical beauty (seriously, she is flawless!) There are many about her service to me (helped me get a job, hired me herself twice, supported me in both my adoptions.) There are her character traits that I so admire (volunteerism, committed to her own self-growth, dedication in her relationships) And her personality (funny, she's got a great mind - so creative, she's always thinking outside the box.) She really does have it all.
And now she is marrying the absolute dream man. Kind, considerate, smart, funny & hot. (hmmm just like her...)
And I guess I doubted my fabulousness for a minute. Although in my book of positive aspects, the page on me is even longer than the one on her, there are many items that she has that I do not. And it is a very human thing, I think, to look at another's greatness and shrink in comparison. And it is WRONG! This kind of thinking comes from the mindset of competition. That if she has something that I don't, that I am left wanting or lacking in some way. But the truth is -- good for me -- that she has it and I KNOW HER. And of course, I have things she does not because we are all in this together. How would that work out if we all had the exact same attributes? We sure wouldn't need each other then.
So it's back to humility. I am me and that's all I can be. And it has to be OK with me. Right here, right now. I have all that I need to be me. The only comparison that makes sense is comparing me with the me I used to be. (And, wow, I have grown!) And besides, the Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Therefore, she could not even be in my experience if we were not alike.
One of my favorite authors, Catherine Ponder, says that we should always be happy for the successes of others. If we can bless them, those same successes are on their way to us. The fact that we can witness another's success means we are very close to our own. So don't listen to the voice that wants to tell you that you are not enough. You are always enough for whatever you are living. When you remember that fact, the clarity you need for your next right step always appears.
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Don't Look Back
I've noticed this tendency in my clients, and myself, to look at past events and say, "Oh, if that would only have gone this way," or "if this had not happened," or "if I'd only known..." But to say this is to miss the point -- we aren't supposed to know! The art of living --the fun of it all -- is in the learning as we go along. In fact, when we spend time lamenting the past, we have stopped moving forward. Consider this quote by Alexander Graham Bell, "When one door closes another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we fail to see the one that has opened for us." So every time we look back, we stop the flow of abundance to us. Our work is to look for the positive aspects of all that happens to us. Why? Well first, because when your focus is on what went wrong you are attracting more of that. It's like taking one step forward and two steps back. And secondly, because you never know exactly how the Universe is delivering your good to you. If you bless everything that happens, you are bound to hit upon the one thing that is, in fact, the next step to what you have been praying for!
There is an old fable to illustrate this point:
There was an old Chinese farmer who had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbors came to console him over his terrible loss. The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know”
A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbors became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know.”
The farmer's son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbors were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know.”
A war came, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. Only the farmer's son, because he had a broken leg, remained. The neighbors congratulated the farmer. “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know,” said the farmer.
So you see, you never know which seemingly regrettable event is really bringing you a great boon. Bless them all and place your attention firmly back to your future and what you want to transpire. As Micheal Beckwith put it, "Energy flows where attention goes."
Here's some things to say when you are tempted to lament past events:
1) Something good will come out of that.
2) Hmm. That was interesting.
3) I refuse to give my attention to that; I'm going to look ahead.
4) I bless that situation and everyone in it.
Say it and let it go. This is such a vital habit to develop if you want a truly prosperous life. Do you?
I've noticed this tendency in my clients, and myself, to look at past events and say, "Oh, if that would only have gone this way," or "if this had not happened," or "if I'd only known..." But to say this is to miss the point -- we aren't supposed to know! The art of living --the fun of it all -- is in the learning as we go along. In fact, when we spend time lamenting the past, we have stopped moving forward. Consider this quote by Alexander Graham Bell, "When one door closes another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we fail to see the one that has opened for us." So every time we look back, we stop the flow of abundance to us. Our work is to look for the positive aspects of all that happens to us. Why? Well first, because when your focus is on what went wrong you are attracting more of that. It's like taking one step forward and two steps back. And secondly, because you never know exactly how the Universe is delivering your good to you. If you bless everything that happens, you are bound to hit upon the one thing that is, in fact, the next step to what you have been praying for!
There is an old fable to illustrate this point:
There was an old Chinese farmer who had only one horse, and one day the horse ran away. The neighbors came to console him over his terrible loss. The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know”
A month later, the horse came home--this time bringing with her two beautiful wild horses. The neighbors became excited at the farmer's good fortune. Such lovely strong horses! The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know.”
The farmer's son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg. All the neighbors were very distressed. Such bad luck! The farmer said, “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know.”
A war came, and every able-bodied man was conscripted and sent into battle. Only the farmer's son, because he had a broken leg, remained. The neighbors congratulated the farmer. “Good thing, bad thing, I don’t know,” said the farmer.
So you see, you never know which seemingly regrettable event is really bringing you a great boon. Bless them all and place your attention firmly back to your future and what you want to transpire. As Micheal Beckwith put it, "Energy flows where attention goes."
Here's some things to say when you are tempted to lament past events:
1) Something good will come out of that.
2) Hmm. That was interesting.
3) I refuse to give my attention to that; I'm going to look ahead.
4) I bless that situation and everyone in it.
Say it and let it go. This is such a vital habit to develop if you want a truly prosperous life. Do you?
Monday, June 29, 2009
Defensiveness - It's all about YOU
Why is it when I'm dealing with a topic, everyone around me starts buzzing with the same thing? (Short answer: Law of Attraction) Anyway, lately I've been looking at defensiveness. I got defensive at another mom when I was watching our kids play. I assumed that an action by her was an affront to me and I got defensive about it. The poor soul apologized ten times, but I had this uncomfortable, lingering, icky feeling that I finally figured out. It was not her fault at all, it was my interpretation of her actions that was the problem. When I cooled down, I was able to reframe her actions in the context of "not having anything to do with me." I could understand her concern for her child and - get this - I might have done the same thing. But there was a message for me in there...
My conclusion is that whenever I am defensive, I am coming from a place of fear. Fear that I will look bad, fear that someone is judging me, fear that I am not in control. (Yikes!) I guess all fear boils down to: fear I'll lose something I have, fear I'll not get something I want.
But when I am in faith, when I am standing in who I truly am, I don't get defensive - about anything. So in reality my defensiveness is a gift to me - it shows me that I'm not standing in the right place. A shift needs to take place and then all is well. Sometimes it is holding onto a positive thought, like an affirmation. Sometimes prayer will produce the needed shift. One thing is for sure though, it is up to me, because it is all happening in me. So in the end... I do have control. AHA!
My conclusion is that whenever I am defensive, I am coming from a place of fear. Fear that I will look bad, fear that someone is judging me, fear that I am not in control. (Yikes!) I guess all fear boils down to: fear I'll lose something I have, fear I'll not get something I want.
But when I am in faith, when I am standing in who I truly am, I don't get defensive - about anything. So in reality my defensiveness is a gift to me - it shows me that I'm not standing in the right place. A shift needs to take place and then all is well. Sometimes it is holding onto a positive thought, like an affirmation. Sometimes prayer will produce the needed shift. One thing is for sure though, it is up to me, because it is all happening in me. So in the end... I do have control. AHA!
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